What is the essential part of keeping a relationship going when moving to a new place of residence, first time?

The major breakdown in relationships is basically a breakdown in communication, between partners. Seriously two loving people decide to live together, in a common house, and hopefully in the same bed. Their lives change dramatically. Why is this so? Many factors may be reasons to relate to it. The main one is this is their first time, living in the same place and being close together in the same space.

What happens because it is the first time, come under one roof, there is little or no discussion or thought put into it on organising chores, who does what when. Then how will they react to understanding and discovering the facts of the traits they committed themselves to. Simply, the more traits you provide to your partner, the more they will in time compare if meeting their expectations to all traits

Without knowing, your language, and the way you speak will change to accommodate each other's new conversations.  For example, it will not be 'What can I pick you up tonight?', it will be 'Where can we go tonight, hin( or similar)?' 

Once you commit to living together both your lifestyle changes. It could be that your parents were doing everything for you from making meals to cleaning up your rooms and suddenly you've never made your bed. How do I make the bed? Are we cooking together or will she do all the cooking! Oh no, I will have to cook as well? I'll drive us to the shops - oh she's driving to the shops with me. A big loss of independence sets in but the gain of living with your partner in daily life, testing the water to see how it all goes.

Overnight, you both change adapting yourselves to each other and acceptance that doing things together should be the primary reason for being together. You've gone from doing nothing around the house to suddenly having a mental roster as to what chores you may have to learn and adapt to, making your partner happy. Being less committed to each other, may not work out together or even being uncommitted. You might as well gain back your independence and move out.

 So we spoke about general language changes but what about physical language. They both play an important role, in how we all feel. What happens if your partner has been cleaning all the house up and you had to watch that Many versus Parramatta game, yet your team lost the game. Knowing your partner is working hard all day and you are having that rest sends a wrong signal to your partner. What if your partner was a Parramatta supporter and didn't see them win the game. Was that fair? No, not really. 

What should have happened before moving into the house can be discussed there and then, with time out for both. By sorting out who does what chores/activities, whether they are individual activities or joint ones, allowing for both people to be sharing quality time together. If you agree to help your partner with the chores, then you cut your partner's time working by half and yes you can both watch the Manly versus Parramatta game and  all can see the the winning team and the games results.

So we have to watch our own body language and make sure that our partner is as happy as ourselves are. Plans to move into a new house together and at the same time, should be done and plans for doing things for your own headspace time, as well. 

The essential part of keeping a relationship going when moving to a new place of residence, the first time is important communication that you had before moving in and keeping that total love and respect for each other on the table.

If you don't have open clearcut communication between both parties may be highly unlikely your sexual activity maybe the same. IT not all doom and gloom couples can make it discovering their new personalities

NSW Government Raises Land Tax Rates 2024-5 and Freezes Thresholds until 2027 - disinvestment to Investors

The NSW Government must be finding it difficult to manage the  NSW State Budget, they have raised the Land tax Rates by a massive 1% from 4 to 5% and decided not to raise the threshold, until 2027.

What does that mean to the economy, they are hitting home investors and making people think twice before they purchase properties. Home Investors are slugged by the Australian and NSW Governments for various taxes when buying multiple properties. You've got NSW Stamp Duty when you initially purchase the properties, which is normally from $15K upwards, then you have NSW Land Tax if you own a few properties and the NSW Valuer General on the estimation of land rates are all totalled and you are over the threshold.  Then you have the Australian Government with Capital Gains Tax, when you sell your property.

I think the NSW Government has taken a backward step with property investors by hitting their pocket with an increase of 1% from 4-5 %. It is a slap in the face to people who would like to invest in our own economy. In fact, the NSW Government should assist property investors by reducing the rate to 3% and increasing the threshold so that there is more of a chance for more investors to increase. There could be some property investors dependent on this income return from rent, and they have to factor in Property Management Fees, income tax, property maintenance costs, Council Land rates, Council water rates, Building insurances, tribunal costs and where possible. Investors can pack their bags with property investments and throw their investments straight into the money market, where 100 per cent of their investments go guaranteed.

Personally, I'm not happy with the decision and when you pay your land tax, you get no thanks to say, 'Thank you for paying your Land Tax on time'. I'm not rich nor poor, but I feel for the rich that pay an exorbitant amount to the NSW Government for trying to make a living profit. It's too late to consider it now, but it will be considered at the next NSW Ballot Box.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Click here for The link

Bay & Basin Public Transport 'Catch a Bus Day' Why is it needed?

I am at the beginning stages of organising a 'Bay & Basin Public Transport 'Catch a bus Day". The inspiration has come from the production of 9 QuickTrips and Scenic Trips Click here for the 9th one and - click at the end of the post for others

Ok. What is this all about? It is all about getting more people's bums on bus seats within the Bay & Basin area and beyond.

Why?

The 'basic' reason why, is the patronage on our local buses is so low, we are lucky to actually have these bus services provided by The NSW Government and serviced by local Bus Operators like Nowra Coaches and Shoal Buses.

I was appalled coming from an urban area where patronage was not an issue, it was just the bus service itself was in high demand and in peak times, fully seated.

So why in our regions there isn't great patronage for these services? Simply, it is based on years and years of governments focussing on urban bus routes and making regions secondary, from my understanding.

Here the Green Party would support me in changing the focus of private cars travelling to public transport travelling/ The Liberal Party would support me in spending on expansive promotional material on all levels of media, to make people catch buses of their own choice. 'Things like Billboards with the Shoalhaven Bus Network Map' and links to the Bus Operators' timetables/contact details.-, along each way of the Princess Highway. We don't even have Shoalhaven Tourism promote buses in their flyers and books.-, because as i was basically told, 'It is too much information to provide.'

 We do promote the purchasing of vehicles but at the end of the day, we do not promote the Public Transport Bus Services, which is sad. We are behind the times here. people leave their cars at home, there is a great ecological advantage, to the environment as well as economic advantage to people as they are spending less on fuel and less wear and tear on their vehicle.

The Liberal Party would agree that this in itself creates a stronger economy once money is spent on trips

So how do we solve this problem? Simply, we run a local campaign of awareness for Public Transport Buses by calling it ' Bay & Basin Public Transport Catch a Bus Day!'

Well, it is what it says, 'Catch a Bus' - I have suggested that on Tuesday 19th March 2024, with the support of Nowra Coaches/, we will organise the community to catch  102X from all Bay Basin villages, starting from Basin View right through to Woollamia and then continuing to Th Hon. Liza Butler's Office in Plunket Street, Nowra. Refreshments will be provided and there will be a few speeches from John Svoboda, Liza Butler, May & Deputy May and open to  to other Councillors to seek on it as well

For Sussex Inlet bus commuters Shoal Bus 134

Time	Bus Stop Number	Bus Stop Destination
8.25	2540200	Collier Drive, Opp Cudmirrah-Berrara Community Hall
10.11	2540409	HomeCo Shopping Centre, Vincentia

Depart- Basin View Bus 102X as follows with various pickup points:

Time	Bus Stop Number	Bus Stop Destination
	2540130	St Georges Basin Public School, Tallyan Rd, Basin View
9.52	2540350	Island Point Rd @ St Georges Rd, St Georges Basin
10.00	2540357	Paradise Beach Rd, Opposite Public School, Sanctuary Point
10.03	25401299	The Wool Road, before MacGibbon Parade, Old Erowal Bay
10.07**	2540409	HomeCo Shopping Centre, Vincentia
10.13	2540631	The Wool Road, Opposite Vincentia Shopping Village
10.19	2540367	Huskisson Shops, Owen Street, Huskisson
10.26	254021065	Woollamia Road @ James Farmer Grove, Woollamia
11.00*	2541163	Nowra Public School, Plunkett Street, Nowra
		*Based on Nowra Post Office time table
		**wait for 134 Bus to arrive

Return Trip with Liza Butler on Nowra Coaches Bus 102 Scenic from Nowra Public School

All commuters will be dropped off to their local bus stops by the bus driver from Woollamia to Basin View

Time	Bus Stop Number	Bus Stop Destination
13.4	2541163	From: Nowra Public School, Plunkett Street, Nowra
15.15	2540130	To: St Georges Basin Public School, Tallyan Rd, Basin View
		Sussex Inlet Commuters could get off at HomeCo, Vincentia and be offered a bus service by Shoal Bus to Sussux Inlet

To register your ride on the Nowra Coaches 102X & return 102 buses, send an email to:
admin@premierms.com.au 

Further information: John Svoboda Ph: 0412118678

Please provide your name, contact phone and which bus stop you will be catching the bus, as above. You will be provided with an electronic numbered ticket by Nowra Coaches for that journey only. It must be shown on entering the bus.

The event was created by John Svoboda & supported by Nowra Coaches NSW Transport, Shoals Bus Bus Service, Illawarra- South Coast Transport Working Group and by the Hon. Liza Butler, State member of South Coast.

Public Transport recognised days:

• 29th February 2020, Luxembourg became the first country in the world to make all public transport free to use.
• 1st Saturday in March - International Free Public Transport Day is celebrated.
• 18th March is Bus Driver /Appreciation Day started to commemorate a free bus line, Blaise Pascal's Carrosses à cinq sols in Paris, 1662.
• 1st October 2022, Malta became the 2nd country in the world to make all public transport free to use.
• 10th November - World Public Transport Day. Transport to raise awareness of the negative environmental effects of increasing traffic density and to motivate people to use public transportation and conserve fuel.
• 24th November -  World Sustainable Day. Transport is vital for promoting connectivity, trade, economic growth and employment. Yet it is also implicated as a significant source of green-house gas emissions. Resolving these trade-offs is essential to achieving sustainable transport and, through that, sustainable development.

 Outcome:

Even to see a slight increase in patronage over the months. More people talking about it and an expansion of this event to all over the Shoalhaven Bus Network and the promotion of this event to be 2025 taken up ny NSW Transport. Finally by 2026, to be recognized by the United Nations as hopefully, an International Free-Fare Public Transport Catch a Bus Day!

Click here for the Shoalhaven Bus Network Map

Rermembering lives lost to suicide - Wesley LifeForce Suicide Memorial Service

 

Steps forward aren’t always easy. But when we take the step to gather and remember loved ones lost to suicide, we each grow a little stronger.    That’s why we hope you’ll join us at our Wesley LifeForce Suicide Memorial Service in Canberra.      Thursday 21 November, 7.30 – 8.40am  Canberra Southern Cross Yacht Club   You’re welcome to arrive early at the venue to spend time reflecting. The venue will be open from 7am and is accessible to everyone. Onsite parking is available.    You’re welcome to bring a photo and share a personal tribute on our memorial wall. We’ll also lay sunflowers as symbols of continued love and hope. Counsellors will be present to offer support.     Thank you if you’ve already let us know that you’ll be joining. If you haven’t had the opportunity yet, you can do so by clicking the button below.

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If you have any questions about the service, call us on 1800 100 024.       Help us spread the word     We encourage you to share this email and our resources pack with anyone impacted by suicide and invite them to attend the service.

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Men's International Day & Movember - Austraian Men's health Forum

November is another huge month in men's health. International Men's Day falls on Tuesday, 19th November and this year's theme is Men's Health Champions. How will you celebrate the day? What activities or events have you got planned and do you need help with ideas or promotions?  Check out our resources and information and get in touch if need help listing an event. IMD is a great opportunity to show the men in your life that you care about them.  November is also Movember, a global movement that keeps men's health issues in the spotlight through the simple act of growing a mo. There's a lot of ways you can get on board and many inventive fundraisers in mo...tion! Best Wishes, Glen Poole, CEO The Australian Men's Health Forum Theme chosen for International Men's Day The theme for International Men's Day 2024 is 'Men's Health Champions'. It was chosen to highlight both the key issues facing men and boys, and to recognise the people delivering solutions. If you are planning an IMD event, a good way to keep it topical is by exploring one or more of the 4 sub-themes: Building Healthy Communities, Look Out For Your Mates, Take Action, Stay Healthy and Creating a Healthier Future.   FULL STORY New resources for IMD 2024 We've developed a suite of new resources to help you support International Men's Day. There are four new posters and two that can be downloaded and customised to promote your own event. We also have social media graphics that can be shared time, including two that are editable.  VIEW RESOURCES Finding the right speaker for IMD 2024: 5 Tips A good way to mark International Men's Day is by holding a community or work event with a guest speaker, ideally someone who can engage, inspire, and provoke thought during your IMD celebration. The IMD website has a growing list of speakers who specialise in men's health. Here are a few pointers on selecting the right one.  FULL STORY List your event on the IMD website Why not celebrate International Men's Day by attending an event, or holding one of your own? The IMD calendar provides a snapshot of what people are planning from breakfasts and barbecues, to a live podcast on men's health in Canberra, a special golf day in WA and the inaugural Men's Health Champions Awards in Tasmania. We'd be delighted to help you promote your event and share it, free of charge, on the IMD website.  VIEW IMD CALENDAR KNOW YOUR MAN FACTS TOOLKITS Give a Know Your Man Facts Talk on International Men's Day International Men's Day is on Tuesday, 19th November, a great opportunity to use one of our Know Your Man Facts Talks at an IMD event. Our talks are suitable for anyone to deliver. They are interactive and come with full speaker notes. Be a men's health champion and help improve the lives of men and boys in Australia. We have toolkits on Men's Heart Health, Men's Mental Health, Mateship, Exercise, and Men's Health Checks. You can also download Know Your Man Facts graphics and share them on your social channels, as well as print out our popular Men's Health Infographics.  VIEW ALL Download the How To Help a Mate Guide The Australian Men’s Health Forum is the peak body for men’s health in Australia. We’re working to create a healthier future for men and boys by helping people take action to tackle the social factors that shape men’s health.  PO Box A647 Sydney Sth, NSW 1235 0419 319 140 admin@amhf.org.au AMHF receives funding from the Australian Government