Today, I spoke to Katie Darby from StandBy Support After Suicide. I can wholeheartedly recommend this service to anyone affected by a loss/death of a loved one through suicide.
It is imperative that the person or persons affected by a loss receive the proper bereavement counseling. Some people say counseling doesn't help them - that's up to them how they take it! For me, it should be a prerequisite in workplaces and homes that bereavement counseling supports the recovery of the loss of a loved one through suicide, which is a horrific circumstance to go through. I found counseling the groundwork to get my life back together, to where it is today.
It depends on the type of counselor you speak to, how clear you listen to them, and use their feedback to make you a stronger person to deal with life itself. One thing and stigma I hate that has been told to me after someone suicides, is that the next person that takes their life could be related as a friend or family to that loss of important loss. This means we have to be mindful of who we all meet, live, and speak to.
Sometimes, we want to get our point across but as we do it, it could mentally damage the other person's mind, without us knowing. Even negative actions speak louder than louder words.
In our world, where businesses are striving for profits and greater profits, seeking their employees to maintain Key Performance Indicators to be their bare minimum standard, pressure and anxiety may set in one's life. Maybe they cannot meet their business goals and or standards. Maybe they have a turnaround in lifestyle from being comfortable to uncomfortable and may not know how to deal with it and think there is no help out in our community.
There is a great deal of help within our community, if no one around you can help It is knowing how to reach out for this help
No matter who you are, each human life on earth is so important to contribute and live a reasonably good life within your very own family, household, community, town, State, and even country. We can all be touched by the goodness we give to all living people. We can all give our love to others because if we don't give our love, we will not get it in return if we are seeking that.
As people, we all have strengths and weaknesses. In these, we need to use our psychological and physical strengths to get us out of negative situations. We can do it. I always say life always will have ups and downs but it is how we pick ourselves up from being down that will raise our emotions, actions, and words. Others around us, feed from what we say and do. If we feed them with words of love and actions that make them feel comfortable with your love, that is what is important. If others place you in a depressive mood, move on and place them in a happy mood.
StandBy Support After Suicide is Australia’s national suicide postvention program dedicated to supporting individuals and communities bereaved or impacted by suicide. This may include supporting families, friends, children, witnesses, first responders, practitioners, schools, workplaces, and communities who have experienced a death by suicide either recently or in the past.
Find a person in your life that you would make the ideal person you would like to be. Whether it be one of your friends or anyone else. Someone that provided you the warmth, the love, the respect, the direction to go for your life's goals.
When I was advocating for better and improved public transport within the Mount Druitt Suburbs over 13 years ago, a lady called Joan was my community idol. She was elderly and had such great local knowledge and certainly was well educated that she inspired me to get back 2 out 3 bus services back into the community and everything else I advocated for, which were all community improvements.
My idol adult growing up was my mother, God Father, they were the people to look up to become the adult that I am today. My today idol, I turn to every day is my wife for the last few years as I live my days until God wants me to leave earth. I will not make that decision for him.
So, searching for help is easy to find when we do simple research. Below are details of StandBy Support after suicide and below that I have provided you all with a list of useful resources, for help.
There will be always someone available to listen to you and provide the best relevant support for you. There is always light at the end of a tunnel.
In South Eastern NSW, StandBy leads the NSW Post Suicide Support initiative, an NSW Ministry of Health Towards Zero Suicide program, in partnership with Roses in the Ocean, Jesuit Social Services, and the University of New England to provide the below support options in Shoalhaven and surrounds:
- 24/7 phone support – 1300 727 247
- Direct face-to-face, online, and telephone support for up to 2 years
- Support with navigating processes such as coroners, funerals, and media
- Specialised suicide bereavement counseling (free and unlimited)
- Peer support through lived experience workers and support groups
- Coordinated connections with local services and groups
- Information and resources for individuals, communities, and workforces (www.standbysupport.com.au)
- Community capacity building – consultation, training, workshops, and events
My role is to coordinate support and act as a central point of contact for those impacted by suicide across South Eastern NSW. Anyone can access support through the 24/7 phone line 1300 727 247. If it is helpful, you are also welcome to provide my direct contact details to anyone who may need them. Additionally, if consent is obtained to pass on contact details to me, I am happy to reach out directly to anyone needing support.
Please feel free to let me know if you have any questions at all,
List of Help services:
In case of Emergency-
Phone: 000 ask for ambulance and follow their advice
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Lifeline-
Ph: 131114
www.lifeline.org.au
Lifeline is a non-profit organisation that provides free, 24-hour telephone crisis support service in Australia. Volunteer crisis supporters provide suicide prevention services, mental health support and emotional assistance, not only via telephone but face-to-face and online.
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Beyond Blue-
Phone: 1300 224 636
www.beyondblue.org.au
Beyond Blue is an Australian mental health and wellbeing support organisation. They provide support programs to address issues related to depression, suicide, anxiety disorders and other related mental illnesses.
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Suicide Call Back Service-
Phone: 1300 659 467
www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au
Tips, information and contact numbers for emergency services for people that are with a suicidal person at risk from Suicide Call Back Service
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Blackdog Institute-
www.balckdoginstitute.org.au
The Black Dog Institute is a not-for-profit facility for diagnosis, treatment and prevention of mood disorders such as depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder. It was founded in 2002 by the UNSW School of Psychiatry Scientia Professor Gordon Parker and is based in Sydney, Australia.
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Shoalhaven Suicide Prevention Awareness Network-
sspan.org.au
The Shoalhaven Suicide Prevention and Awareness Network (SSPAN) is a network of representatives from the community, government and non-government organisations. We work closely with the Shoalhaven community to raise awareness of suicide; promote recovery from mental illness; and build individual and community resilience; with the aim of reducing the impact of suicide in the Shoalhaven.
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Jesuit Social Services-support after suicide-
Phone: 1800 943 415
www.supportaftersuicide.org.au
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